Frequently Asked Questions
About making a move
10. There are so many choices and options—where do I even begin?
Loving Decisions is here to narrow the choices to best match your budget, the specific needs of your loved one and the locations you’d prefer. When making your final choice, you should always consider it from the point of view of how your loved one is today and what he/she needs to enjoy a fulfilling life.
11. How far in advance do I need to begin looking for a residence? What’s involved with moving?
The process can take as little as a few days to as much as a month or so. Not unlike buying a house, you’ll want to give yourself time to look at a few different options. You’ll also have to fulfill certain licensing requirements, such as assessment forms and a TB test.
12. My loved one does not want to move. How do I convince him/her it’s for the best?
It’s human nature to resist change, particularly when it’s not one’s own idea or desire to move. Loved ones moving to assisted living often do so after another major crisis—a broken hip, stroke, etc. Many seniors have a negative image of assisted living and the quality of care and see it as a surrender of independence.
You can help make the process easier by stepping back and viewing things from your loved one’s perspective. Listen to what you are saying and think about how he or she may be hearing it. Try to understand and address the real cause for resistance.
Also, involve your loved one in the decision-making as much as possible—and as much as cognitive ability allows. Take him or her on a tour or show pictures before signing a contract. Let your loved one pick items to bring along to personalize the space. You can also help by informing the staff of any special routines, likes and dislikes, and other triggers.
Always remember, your loved one is not the first or the last to resist moving. After getting established in a new routine—with regular medications, regular meals and social interactions—he or she may come to enjoy the move (though probably without admitting it). To keep things from getting too overwhelming, ask the advice of professionals around you and get support from family and friends.